FamilyLife Blended® con Ron L. Deal

Those who love well know what to ignore and what to follow. When someone who cares for you is angry, what they're saying is “I need you.” You see, when we feel unimportant to someone we value we get angry and anger on the outside hides fear and desire on the inside. We want to be important. Now, when on the receiving end of someone’s anger, what mature people do is look past the anger to the desire behind it. Instead of anger or disappointment, they hear “I need you and want to be closer.” Then they move toward that desire. That’s how pain becomes peace.