Dating in mid-life is complicated. He was in his mid-50’s talking loudly on his mobile phone and I overheard him say, “Sweetie, you know this. I have to pay alimony and child support. Don’t scream at me. No, I can’t change it and this has nothing to do with us.” Well, actually, it does. Mid-life dating means embracing the other person’s past and making it your present. If you find yourself, like this guy, dating someone who wants to untie your commitments—especially those to your kids—don’t plead with them to understand. Move on.